How to Write an Epitaph: A Step-by-Step Guide
A simple process for writing a personal epitaph — gathering memories, choosing a tone, drafting short lines, testing them on the stone and agreeing with family.
An epitaph is often the only line on a headstone that is truly personal. Writing one can feel daunting; a simple process helps.
1. Gather memories
Write down words people use to describe them, phrases they said, what they loved and how they made others feel.
2. Choose a tone
| Tone | Example |
|---|---|
| Loving | Forever in our hearts |
| Faith | At peace with God |
| Personal | Always the life of the party |
| Light-hearted | Gone fishing — see light-hearted epitaphs |
| Reflective | A life well lived |
3. Draft many short lines
Aim for 3–8 words. Write ten versions; short lines read better on stone. See three-word epitaphs.
4. Read it aloud
Does it sound like them? Will it still feel right in 30 years?
5. Test it on the stone
Check the line fits at a readable size — see how many words fit. Our Design Studio shows it instantly.
6. Agree with family
Share two or three options. See when family disagrees.
Writing your own
Some people write their own epitaph as part of pre-need planning.
Key Takeaways
- Start from memories and phrases they used.
- Keep it to 3–8 words.
- Test the length and agree with family.
Next Step
Browse our epitaph ideas.
Frequently Asked Questions
How long should an epitaph be?
Usually 3–8 words, or one line of about 25–35 characters on a standard upright.
How do I write a personal epitaph?
Gather memories and phrases they used, choose a tone, draft several short lines and test them on the stone.
Can I write my own epitaph?
Yes. Many people do as part of pre-need planning.
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