Placing Flags on Graves: Rules and Etiquette

A small flag on a veteran's grave is a simple, powerful gesture. Doing it respectfully means knowing a few rules and customs.

Cemetery rules

• Many cemeteries welcome small flags on veterans' graves around Memorial Day, Veterans Day, Remembrance Day and Canada Day.
• Some limit flag size or how long they can stay.
• National cemeteries often run their own flag programs with volunteers.
• Ask before placing flags on graves of people you don't know.

Where to place a flag

• In front of the headstone, centred, about a foot away.
• Upright and straight, with the staff pushed firmly into the ground.
• Never attached to the stone with tape or wire.
• On flat markers, beside the marker so mowers can pass.

Etiquette

• Keep flags clean and undamaged.
• Replace faded or torn flags.
• Many people retire worn flags respectfully — veterans' groups often collect them.
• Don't let flags touch the ground when carrying them.

Removal

Cemeteries usually remove holiday flags after a set period so mowing can resume. If you want a permanent tribute, consider a service emblem engraved on the stone — see military headstone symbols.

Volunteer programs

In many communities, veterans' groups, Scouts and schools organise volunteers to place flags on every veteran's grave before Memorial Day or Remembrance Day. Joining one is a meaningful way to honour veterans, especially for families who can't visit their own relatives' graves.

Key Takeaways

• Small flags are usually welcome on veterans' graves.
• Place flags upright in front, never attached to the stone.
• Replace worn flags and retire them respectfully.
• Cemeteries remove holiday flags after a set time.

Next Step

See Memorial Day vs Veterans Day vs Remembrance Day.